1. Intro

I was saying to Mandy the other day to avoid friendships with males. I’ve proposed this idea before. Why? The major reason is that men never, ever seem to be able to do platonic relationships. Even if he doesn’t find you physically attractive: if he is hanging out with you for a while, he will start to think you are. Many men put themselves in denial about this but their pattern of behaviour is clearly motivated by it. They get worse over time.

2. Online Dating

The fate of the relationship is either rejection — which is both painful and difficult to accept for him and may result in bitter or dangerous behaviour — or having a relationship with him: there’s a reason you don’t think he’s suitable and you don’t want him to catch you when you’re vulnerable and lonely and noone else is giving you the time of day.

3. Dating Personals

Having men around you isn’t conductive to attracting a man you want. You may give the impression you’re already taken or your male “friend” may encourage that idea. Your M”F” may screen other men on his own criteria. MFs are fodder for gossip in your social circle, as well as tools that other women can try and use against you when crushing on your existing partner. Refusing to have M”F”s is a good loyalty indicator to your man. MFs also treat you differently: they bloat your ego and generally change your attitude in that you start to think it’s okay to use what they offer you freely: be it attention or gifts. It can make you a worse person and subsequently, a worse woman to have a relationship with.

4. Single Girls

However, practically in this world, avoiding men completely isn’t the best of ideas. It’s also not much fun because men are both great and useful to be around a little. So how do you practically implement this?

5. The list

A) Avoid exchanges with a man that speak of your or his emotions. Keep it academic, business or insubstantial. Keep the rest for your girlfriends and bonding with your partner. Sharing emotions makes you closer to him and makes you vulnerable. B) Don’t be alone with him in a non-public place. Reasons for this are obvious, especially if you’re feeling lonely or unattractive at the time. C) Keep touch to the minimum. You should make him feel uncomfortable about touching you. Recoil, be stiff, be aloof, etc. D) Group outings are the best. Try and make sure the girls outnumber the guys. E) Keep drinking and other mood-altering substances to the minimum when you expect men are going to be in the vicinity. Especially male “friends”. F) Agree beforehand with a reliable woman to walk together back to your door and home at a reasonable time where transport is available. If it isn’t possible to go back in a group, carry self-defence aids with you. You musn’t have to rely on any man besides family and your partner to help make you feel and keep you safe. You definitely musn’t have to sleep over at anyone’s place. G) Stay out of his house: don’t visit his room or his family. H) Through your intelligence network, identify matchmakers who want you two together. Make sure you stay away from them as well and be wary of including them in group situations. I) Be self aware: understand the signs of knowing when you’re partially attracted to a man. You’ll be analysing him and looking for his company. If he’s unsuitable for a very important reason (e.g. religious differences or he’s a serial killer?*), then take actions to ensure nothing happens.